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Self care for busy parents

self care

Here in Australia we are well in to winter and the inevitable flu season that comes with it. I’m not particularly fond of this time of year. It’s not because I hate the cold and wind we get in my little part of the world though that’s part of it. (OK, it doesn’t get anywhere near as cold here as in other places but there are still some very chilly moments.) It’s because of the tendency for everyone to get sick. As my work caring for others increases, so my ability to practice self care decreases. It’s difficult enough trying to keep all of the balls in the air at the best of times. Winter illnesses just seem to add that extra layer of complexity.

When my child is sick, I find myself in a situation where I have to make decisions about my priorities. I have to look at him and decide if he is very sick or just a little bit sick. I then have to decide if I can stretch it out another day before I have to ask the boss for leave to look after him. I have to decide if my exercise class is important this week or if I should stay at home instead. I have to decide how much I am willing to do, over and above the usual, to keep all of the balls in the air.

At these times we can find ourselves stretched very thin trying to keep up with all of our responsibilities. I believe that it is a natural reaction for mothers in particular to put the needs and wellbeing of others first. There comes a time however, when we have to make a concerted effort to make our own self care a priority.

I remember a mother at mother’s group some years ago telling us about how sick her children had been. She was saying that she hated seeing them like that and would much rather be sick herself. At the time my children were preschoolers and I was filled with a complete sense of horror at her comment. I couldn’t imagine thinking the same way. How on Earth would I cope if I fell ill?

I am not saying that I wanted my children to be sick. I honestly did not know how I would manage if I was sick myself. It’s difficult enough looking after a couple of pre schoolers at the best of times. Children don’t stop needing to be fed, bathed, cared for and entertained because we are feeling under the weather. Part of me was probably just trying to be optimistic. I hoped that we would get through the flu season without anyone catching it.  Another part felt extremely selfish and terribly guilty over my reaction.

Over the years however I have learned that at times it is necessary to put my needs ahead of those around me. I have come to learn that in order to be the best parent I can possibly be, I need to look after myself.

There are at least three areas of self care I must prioritise.

1) Fitness

I can’t run around and play with my children easily if I am unfit. This means that I must ensure I make time each day to get some form of physical exercise. This may be taking the dog for a walk, playing with the kids at the beach or an exercise class. Whatever it is, it must be something that gets my body moving and my heart racing. There is nothing to say it has to be overly strenuous.  My belief though is that it needs to be as enjoyable as I can make it. I want to make sure I create the time to do something every day.

2) Nutrition

I can’t join in with the fun family activities if I have no energy because I have been eating an unhealthy diet. This means that I must ensure I have a good breakfast to start my day off well, limit the sugary food and drink I consume and control my portion sizes. For me it’s eating too much after dinner that is my downfall. I have to put strategies in place to ensure that I don’t get too far off track at that time of the day.

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3) Mental health

I am unable to find that extra bit of patience to deal with whatever life throws my way if I am stressed or my thoughts are elsewhere. This means that I need to take care not to bring my work home from the office. I have to put strategies in place to keep on top of all of the household chores.  I also need to create some ‘me time’ each day to wind down and relax.

It is also important for me to make time for a hobby that is mine alone. This means that I am the one participating, not the spectator. I put myself first for that short period of time. For me this hobby is my dancing and I religiously go every week. It’s my time to forget about work, children and any other stresses. I switch off and have fun with a lovely bunch of ladies who enjoy each other’s company.

My challenge for you today is to make time to prioritise your self care. I want you to be fit, healthy and full of energy so you can take the best care of your family.

If you are taking time to care for your fitness, nutrition and mental health, you are more likely to stay fit and healthy for longer regardless of the season.

If you are struggling to find the time to prioritise your health, check out my Timewrangling Technique Workbook to help you make time for self care this week.

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  • Suzy @ In The Lyons Den July 27, 2016, 8:50 pm

    Whole heartedly agree with you! As a working mum with 2 small ones at school and pre school and studying in the evening it is so important to make “you” time. Part of my time is exercise which as I always say, you never come back angry or more stressed after a run. It is so important to communicate with your partner so you both allow that time for each other. And of course everyone feels better when they eat better. Great tips. 🙂

    • lifewrangling@gmail.com July 29, 2016, 6:40 am

      You are so right about the importance of communicating with your partner so that both people feel valued and appreciated. It’s no good having all sorts of plans but being unable to do them because the other person doesn’t understand what it is you want/need to do.

  • Sarah Jean July 29, 2016, 8:18 pm

    I did not know it was winter in Australia now; it is the heat of summer here in Washington, D.C. Oddly though, even though it is 95 degrees outside I am home sick with a cold and could use these self care tips. 🙂

  • jess July 30, 2016, 11:28 am

    This is so important, thank you for raising it! Parents really do need to take care of themselves first, so that they can be mentally and physically healthy, as well as good role models for emotional health for their children.

  • Shari from GoodFoodWeek July 30, 2016, 5:29 pm

    My favourite part of the week is my one hour of me time – in which I pop the boys into crache and I attend the gym. I used to do yoga, but now at 30 weeks pregnant I’ve started Aqua and I love it. It keeps me sane.

    • lifewrangling@gmail.com August 1, 2016, 6:27 am

      A fantastic idea Shari. I used to find that my kids really enjoyed spending time at the creche. Everyone went home happy at the end. Aqua sounds like a great idea for reducing the strain on your body but still allowing you to get some exercise. Love it!

  • Paula, The Geeky Shopaholic July 30, 2016, 10:18 pm

    Good advice! I need to cut back on the sugar intake. I never thought about it effecting my energy!

  • Christine @ Adventure, Baby! August 6, 2016, 4:44 pm

    Self care is so important! I never take good enough care of myself and always end up run down and sick.

  • Lisa - The Love of a Captain blog August 28, 2016, 11:31 am

    I never have time to take care of myself having a 10wk old and 18mth old. Any spare time I get where the kids are napping (which isn’t often), I’m catching up on chores. x. #weekendblogshare

  • Karen : TwoTinyHands August 28, 2016, 6:49 pm

    I completely agree with all 3 points. I make sure we go out for a walk daily and always try and eat healthly. I normally have the me time in the evening but somtimes a quick 5 minutes in the bathroom work too! #weekendblogshare

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